UNHEALTHY UNIVERSITY RELATIONSHIPS AMONG STUDENTS

 University relationship is very inevetible, but many students get themselves in relationships before defining their relationship. It's very important to define your relationship, if it's just a friendly one or you want to be in a committed serious one that may eventually  lead to marriage. Most of the people, don't really get the meaning unhealthy or a toxic relationship, this is are relationship where you are emotionally or physically damaged by the other person.

Most of the relationships at the beginning tend to be very sweet and alot of promises are made and shared of which each one of them expects the other partner to keep their words. Most relationships that starts in first year they mostly fail, this is because most  the students are excited of the freedom outside high school. Most of the relationships starts well but eventually ends due to one partner falling out of the relationship the love fades away, but it's not that the love did fade away but it's because it wasn't love to begin with, it was only attraction nothing more , this leaves the other person suffering. Another thing is that most of the men when the first years are being admitted in school they tend to leave their current girlfriends replacing them with the first years.

According to Moi University Dean of students John Ayieko says the conversation around student relationships is timely.“It is high time we talked about student relationships considering the reported dangers that surround unhealthy relationships,” When the relationship is giving you more stress and anxiety than joy and love then you are In a toxic relationship and it's not good for you, you are better off being alone and don't feel bad about the relationship, tell the person you can't be in that relationship anymore and you need to be alone for it's not feeling right to your end.

When one person in the relationship is serious about the relationship and the other one is just there because he or doesnt want the partner to feel bad that's a toxic relationship, university relationship becomes toxic when one of the partners have more than one person that is dating this is the main problem that campus relationship has. 

CHARACTERISTICS OF A UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

1. You're always the one saying sorry.

2. Feeling guit but you don't know why.

3. Feeling unsafe or insecure around the person.

4. When you feel you are trapped in the relationship.

5. When they harm you or threaten you.

Unfortunately it's not that easy to quit a toxic relationship. Most of the time the person being

abused tend to hope the partner will change his or her behavior but most of the time things go from bad to worse. Most University relationships it's come hectic to one partner when the relationship is about to end since most of the students tend to move in with their partners this makes it very hard to end the toxic relationship because one of them is relying on the other one or one is scared if they end the relationship they will loose a home or is afraid to loose the person. There are many reasons why the students continue being in a toxic relationship even if they know they are unhappy. Letting go of someone you really love is very hard but one has to be strong and figure out how he or she will start a new chapter of their lives without their partners.

Students in relationship in technical university of mombasa 

Being in a relationship it   have a lot of advantages more than the disadvantages, one has to feel that they are really loved in that particular relationship. One has to state his or her intentions before getting into a serious relationship, if it's just for a short period of time or if it's just for certain benefits.

So it's very important to every student to first define the nature of the relationship they are about to start, and what they are about to create,it's worth it. And it's also important to care about each other's feelings.